Most people do not know this, but there are 5 different love languages. 5 different ways that we feel loved and love others. One of these is YOUR love language! It is up to you to figure out which one that is. This applies to single, married, children, teens and adults, we all love and are loved.
Love Language #1
Words of Affirmation
Verbal compliments or words of appreciation are powerful communicators of love. They are best expressed in simple statements of affirmation such as: "you look sharp in that suit" or "Do you ever look nice in that dress. Wow!" Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse's perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse.
Love Language #2
Quality Time
A central aspect of quality time is togetherness. Two poeple sitting in the same room are in close proximity, but they are not necessarily together. Togetherness has to do with focused attention. Quality time does not mean that we have to spend our together moments gazing into each others eyes. It means we are doing something together and we are giving our full attention to the other person.
Love Language #3
Recieving Gifts
Gifts are visual symbols of love. Most wedding ceremonies include the giving and receiving of rings. The person performing the ceremony says, "These rings are outward and visible signs of an inward and spiritual bond that unites your two hearts in love that has no end." That is not meaningless rhetoric. It is verbalizing a significant truth-symbols have emotional value. These gifts are not the normal birthday, anniversary, expected gifts.
Love Language #4
Acts of Service
Such actions as cooking a meal, setting a table, washing dishes, vacuuming, removing the white spots from the mirror, getting bugs off the windshield, taking out the garbage, changing the baby's diaper, painting a bedroom, dusting the bookcase, keeping the car in operating condition, cleaning the garage, mowing the grass, trimming the shrubs, raking the yard, walking the dog, adn changing the cat's litter box are all acts of service. They require thought, planning, time, effort, and energy. If done with positive spirit, they are indeed expressions of love. If the person who feels loved by this language has to ask you to do these things, its pointless, you must do them on your own, willingly.
Love Language #5
Physical Touch
Physical touch is also powerful vehicle for communicating marital love. Holding hands, kissing, embracing, and sexual intercourse are all ways of communicating emotional love to one's spouse. For some individuals, physical touch is their primary love language. Without it, they feel unloved. With it, their emotional tank is filled, and they are secure in the love of their spouse.
All of the above information can be found in the book "The Five Love Languages" by Gary D. Chapman Ph.D
There are quizes to take to find out what you and your spouses love language is.
5 Love Languages
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